Wednesday, December 28, 2011

The Secret Struggles of Many Pastors

I came across this interesting blog post by Ron Edmondson.  I have taken his 10 Secrets of Most Senior Pastors and posted them below.  I'm calling them secret struggles.  I would encourage you to go and read his blog in its entirety.  I would also encourage you to pray for your pastor and his family.  

Here are 10 “secrets” about many senior pastors:

  • Leading from this position is overwhelming at times. We know Christ is ultimately in charge, but we also know it often seems everyone looks to us to have all the answers.
  • People tell the senior pastor all kinds of things about what is happening in their life or in the lives of others…many we would rather not know sometimes…and sometimes the weight of others problems we carry is enormous.
  • Most pastors walk with a degree of uncertainty, which keeps us in prayer, but also makes us question our abilities at times. It makes depression common for many senior pastors. (Need a Biblical example…see 1 Kings 19)
  • Many senior pastors fear the possibility of failing in their role, so they thrive on the encouragement and prayers of others.
  • Sometimes we allow insecurity to cause us to become overprotective of our reputation and our position.
  • We face the same temptations and occasional spiritual dryness as everyone else. This means we need accountability, but are often afraid to seek it.
  • Our spouse is sometimes the loneliest person in the church and often feels extreme pressure to live up to unrealistic expectations.
  • Loneliness can exist for all leaders and many pastors suffer from it.
  • We seldom know who we can trust, which is why we become guarded and appear hard to get to know. Most senior pastors have been burned by someone they once trusted.
  • We suspect the staff , church leaders and congregation sometimes talks about us behind our back.

4 comments:

Allyson Petty said...

Pastor Patrick,
I often spend time praying for you and your family. This post just reminds me to continue to pray...even specifically for these areas. Thank you for all you do for our church. We are so, so blessed to have you and your family.

Dr. Patrick Mead said...

Thank you for your prayers. Every pastor struggles with these at times, if not all the time.

Steve Weeks said...

OK . . . I am breaking my silence. I agree with all of those things Patrick ... and will add weight to them. Take the loneliness, the family pressure, the obvious mistrust from people in the church, the broad expectations with little patience or understanding(much less any forgiveness), and leave them on your pastor...and you will run him right out of the ministry. He will lose all desire to lead. He will eventually despise even the thought of serving in ANY church.
I am living proof.

Take initiative on your own to protect and encourage your pastor.
Go beyond just being a follower, become the personal guard of your pastor's heart and his family.

Dr. Patrick Mead said...

Steve,

I sure miss you and your family. You are one of the most creative, hard working pastors I have ever served alongside of in ministry. I love your transparency and authenticity.
God bless you, my brother. Call me sometime.

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